Journeying - glad you like your urologist, it's great to be able to trust your careprovider. I hope your hubby's count improves soon.
I have good and bad news. Last week, on Thursday, i got a positive test! It was early evening, and i was at my dad's with DH and DD. I was so excited.
I had been due AF by Tuesday and a test on Tues morning had been negative so i was wondering why my cervix was still so high high high and soft. I had a little spotting on Wednesday afternoon, and thinking it was AF i put my menstrual cup in. That was when i discovered my cervix was way high - usually for AF i stick the cup right over my cervix as i am short inside and it sits way low at AF time. This time i was hunting a good while! An hour or so later i removed it to empty and there was about 2mls of red watery blood which smelled very strongly of lochia and a single brown clot which i didn't much more than glance at. I wondered if the fact that the Mirena had vastly reduced my periods had made me forget that AF smells like afterbirthing blood, but since i was travelling to my dad's i couldn't check with you ladies anyway. The bleeding then totally stopped.
Fast forward, we arrived at my dad who gave me a very knowing look when i arrived and i knew he thougt i was pregnant. So when he'd gone to his voluntary job an DH and i were alone i sent DH out to get some groceries for us all and a pack of pegnancy tests. I did one right away. Positive. Faint, but definite. I decided i'd do the other the next morning with FMU to get a better confirmation. But my massive aching breasts and vanishing cervix were enough for me.
Friday morning i woke at about 5am feeling like i had to pee so bad my stomach was aching. I went and peed, did the other test and got back into bed while i waited to read the result. By the time i did read it (5minutes later) i had realised that the stomach pains had gotten worse since i had pee'd, not better. The test was negative. A faint second line appeared about 20mins later (the first test was as faint but the line came up at 3mins). I lay curled up against DH and when he woke whispered (DD was sleeping at the foot of our bed) that i thought it was an early loss.
That day he was going off to see his brother in another city, leaving DD and I with my dad so i could visit other family. So at half 9 or so we went off. I had put the menstrual cup in before leaving, anticipating, because of the pain, that i would need it. I bled moderately, and cramped severely. I think some of that was my several years off having AF though! I had just forgotten perhaps!
The next day i cramped and bled very severely (by normal standards). I emptied the cup (which was full or near-full each time, so about 1.5-2oz) every hour for about 5 hours, then every 2 hours for about the next 6. Then it all slowed down again. My dad, who had figured i was pregnant but then been told (i was doubled over) i was having a period, took me out for lunch and bought me a giant rare steak with green veggies and green salad. It was hard being away from DH but my daddy really took care of me.
Sunday i bled a normal amount for AF and Monday it all slowed down. Today i am only sligtly spotting.
So my bad news is that i lost a pregnancy at approximately 5weeks (3 weeks gestation) and that i did it away from home and away from DH. In fact in retrospect i suspect the clot i lost on thursday was the pregnancy (hence the lochia-smell) and the +ve test was residual falling but not gone hcg. Which is extra-depressing because i lost the clot in a MacDonalds bathroom in a motorway rest-stop of all places!
But my good news is that i know DH and i are fertile together now, the loss was very early, straightforward and easy (no trips to A&E or anything) and i feel fine now, and we are eager to go on ttcing. I have not cried though i did get a bit upset last night at a whole lot of petty problems others had been bringing to me.
This has been a huge post. Basically i am bruised but optimistic.