If you don't mind, could you PM me and let me know where in NJ you'll be and which midwife you're meeting with? I'm the area too, in NY, and might be able to give you some more names of possible preceptors. It is my understanding that to become licenced in NY you either have to become a CNM, OR have a bachelor's degree (in anything, doesn't have to be midwifery), have completed an "approved" (I'm a little fuzzy on what that means) course of study in midwifery, and then take the boards to become a CM.
National College of Midwifery has a BSM for practicing midwives, or midwives who have completed their associates degree program. So you could become a CPM by whichever means you find best, and then go on to do the BSM. I believe right now that program is $5000. If you did their associates program, and then the BSM, it would be an additional $5000 (maybe I'm missing something, so don't quote me on that). My midwife did their program. She was a CPM first and just a couple years ago sat for her boards. I know another midwife in the area who is doing this program right now while doing an apprenticeship with a NJ midwife.
So if you're set on getting licensed, here's another option.
Here is where I got that info on the NY laws.
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