i think in this case, appropriateness is a matter of opinion and everyone´s got a right to their own opinion.
i think other´s opinions don´t matter as much as your own in relation to your life. you can´t live trying to please other´s/be perfect - it´s self-torture.
some things to consider is just how is it going to workout for you and your son and your support system?
i´m a single-mom/birth assistant and i´ve been very thankful to count on family that will take kids (i have a girl and a boy) in the middle of the night, kids that love me going to births/families for hours on end and an ex-husband willing to wake-up in the middle of the night to sleepover with kids, even though he had to be up early to go to work in the morning.
so, think about how can you make it work for you!
“Be yourself; everyone else is
- Oscar Wilde