I noticed no posts here lately. Hope thaty means your situation has improved, mama2b! I certainly feel for you! I had a homebirth client that sounds much like you, 30 yrs ago. She not only had a great homebirth, but we became good friends, so much so that she is one of my kids godmother! We still keep in touch. If you are still having problems w the kind of care you're getting, call and chat, or troubleshoot w me anytime! 740-286-5756.
BTW, here are some tips:
1) you might want to just buy your own BP cuff, that you know fits you right, and is accurate, since many HCP's just have cuffs that only fit "average" clients
2) Natural Vit E (d-alpha, not dl-alpha) increases the insulin carrying capacity of your RBC's. This should improve your blood sugar levels. Speaking of which, I don't trust artificial sweeteners. Stevia is a good substitute, but I personally don't like its taste, but found some brands are better than others, I do like Agave, which is another good alternative for diabetics.
3) Many times w o'wt moms, the baby is quite content to stay up high in the abdomen, until far into active labor. I have seen this happen w several women, including my good friend, and a d-i-l. In fact the d-i-l, had a C/S 1st time cause the baby was still high up at 6 cms, she was dxed w CPD. Well, she's had 4 VBACs since then, her fastest labor was only 3 hrs, and her biggest VBAC was 11 lbs, 8 oz, The C/S baby was 9 lbs 12 oz. She has a quite adequate pelvis, it wasn't CPD after all, just impatience on the docs part. In all fairness, most womens babies are descending into the pelvis well before labor let alone 6 cms! Fat pads can hold them up (kinda like the baby is quite comfortable in its cushy womb, complete w pillows!, BUT you can push them past a fat pad, it just takes gravity & determination!
4) Say No thank you to all interventions, unless you're loosing the baby's heart rate! Don't let them scare you into anything.