Again, welcome to the boards. I'm sorry you're having a hard time getting pregnant. I remember grappling with the issue in my mind about "what if I don't get what I want?" and I don't think I got to the point where you are of almost accepting that. I applaud you. That's half the battle right there. Sound like your focus is great--being healthy and not stressing. That's so important.
There was an awesome post on the old forums regarding all the attention we put on women preparing nutritionally for conception, but this one focused on how men can prepare nutritionally for having healthy sperm etc. I seem to remember that avoiding alcohol, tobacco, hot baths, and tight underwear were on the list of things to do at least 3 months before trying, and that selenium and zinc and I can't remember what else were also very important for proper sperm production. I wish I remembered. Maybe vitamin E. I've also heard about Arginine and Cartinine being important for men, but don't know the dosage. There are some rather pricey supplements out there that claim they help sperm count issues, for what its worth.
I understand not wanting to do fertility treatments. I was always willing to explore why I might be having trouble conceiving, but not willing to accept most of the conventional treatments. I wasn't into the whole "factory" feel of it. I always preferred being in charge of my own health, rather than depending so much on doctors and drugs that are manufactured more for moneymaking reasons.
What I did pursue was acupuncture and chinese herbs. Its a little expensive but seems to be quite effective, even for men, and is definitely much less than fertility treatments. It helps the body function more normally by applying a "thumb" as it were to the problem, rather than the sledgehammer of drugs that force the body to pump out different levels of hormones and perform certain functions.
I've gotten pregnant twice now within two months of a single acupuncture treatment (on myself, my husband had no issues). Don't know if that's coincidence? We decided to give it a try on our own for 6 months before pursuing more acupuncture and herbal treatments, and here I am 8 weeks pregnant.
I wish you all the best. See you around.
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Mommy of 3 awesome boys, ages 11, 8, and 4, and a precious 2 year old daughter.