15 years ago with my son i tore, but healed up nicely. no tearing with my daughter 13 years ago. i have a feeling this baby is going to be bigger, plus it has been a number of years since i have given birth, so i thought massage might be a good idea. i was not told to do it or that i needed to, i was just trying it as a prevenative measure. however, i dont want to further tramatize my tissues, and am currently (while sitting on an ice bag) thinking i may be better off just trusting my body and allowing for what ever happens at birth.
i had tried doing the massage myself, but at this point my arms simply are not long enough for me to reach down there and do any real massaging. i have been sitting in a reclining position and applying a warm rag till it cools, then my partner oils up his fingers and gently cominces the massage. we are following the technique our doula taught us, along with several articles we've read that even came with pictures. we watched a video and have tried to do the gentle stretching it suggests.
mostly he uses two fingers gently sliding them in and runnign them back and forth while gently stretching down and out, just like our doula showd us. the first time there was some tinggling and discomfort as we had heard discribed, but by last night i coud barely handle him touching me and it was flat out painful. now today i am in a good deal of pain, hurting when i walk, sit or try to void (as i mentioned). the cold pack seems to help some. i had my hunny check me this evening after a nice long shower to make sure there was no apparent trama or tearing, he said no it just looks irritated and swollen.
not sure thats enough detail. but not sure how to explain further.
oh not sure if this effects things but the dr has had us on no sex the whole pregnacy so i really havent been touched down there in months! there were placental issues that where causeing concern.so all of my yoni tissues are very sensitive and extra touchy.
i will try to get some arnica tablets, i dont have any on hand, and the idea of applying any salves doesnt sound good!!! and think i'll take your advice and just relax and enjoy things as much as i can without bringing on un- needed pain. my tissues will get enough work out soon enough without me iritating them now!
and thank you for your confirmation, i had heard discomfort and tinggling durring massage was normal, but nothing about pain after!
all my thanks! morae
(sorry about spelling)