I am applying to direct-entry midwifery school next month and in the past year that I've been working on prerequisites and educating myself on natural birth and midwifery, I can see that this culture of natural birth definitely requires some advocacy from it's practitioners. While I'm happy to oblige, I find myself torn between supporting every woman's birth plans and gently trying to educate them on other options when their birth plan includes induction, scheduled c-sections, and an epidural "before it gets too painful".
I understand that when I go into school and into practice, the women that seek out direct-entry midwives are often educated on the benefits of natural birth and have already made the choice to plan on it. It's just hard when close friends of mine say things like, "I don't think I could do it naturally", or "I have nothing to prove: why would I want that pain if I don't have to have it?".
It makes me very sad, and I want to be approachable, not overbearing in my opinions. I do want to support every woman's choice to birth as she chooses, but how can I possibly when what she's choosing is the very type of birth that has lead me to work to educate woman in other options? I don't want to be off-putting to anyone, nor do I want to smile and nod at women that are having their first babies as scheduled inductions or c-sections.
Does anyone have any advice on finding a middle ground on the subject of talking birth with people who don't share my passion? It feels almost political to me, and I want to do right by my beliefs without stepping on anyones toes, or making them feel judged.
"Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened.
Happiness never decreases by being shared."